Have you ever wondered how much time you spend on the things that don’t really matter? What if you spent that time actually doing something that will benefit your life choices and future? As easy as it may sound to cut off the small things.. You have to train your brain to focus on what’s true, immediate, and important. Here is how to start:
1) Identify what you know will benefit your future.
Everyone’s life and goals are different. So start identifying what you do just about everyday that makes you proud and excited for your future. Personally, I want to work in branding and marketing. Times in this industry have changed since we have the world literally at our fingertips. Therefore I always have either my phone of laptop in hand. Here are my examples on what I believe will benefit my future:
2) Understand Why these may benefit you.
Like I stated before, times have changed in the Branding/Marketing industry. Therefore, Social media is a great way to get in contact with other innovative companies I may want to work with. So, I love posting at least once a day to really connect with my followers and gain more of an organic following with like-minded people.
Blogging has been in my life for almost two years now and it helps me grow as a writer and person. I believe that I bring a unique perspective about life and others will see that and will help me make connections in my future. When it comes to Webinars and Networking Conferences, I love that successful people take the time to try and teach the people that are just starting out in their career. Therefore, I take that time seriously to take notes and understand a different perspective that I need to learn.
3) What’s something you find yourself wasting your time doing?
When I say “wasting your time..” I’m meaning what you can do in that time frame that can help you grow but aren’t taking advantage of.
We’re all guilty of it.
-I find myself wasting time reminiscing on other success stories and not doing the work myself.
-I procrastinate by watching hours worth of facebook video
-Lastly, I find myself scrolling and liking others post on social media more than I create my own content.
4) Choose your time wisely!
You have identified what you do in the time that you could be doing something more beneficial. Start to focus on the little beneficial habits you have instead of what doesn’t. When you focus your brain on your strengths and start eliminating it’s weaknesses you’ve created your tool box.
With self-improvement comes success.
In tribute to the Orlando Pulse shooting a year ago today. I have written 49 reasons (representing the 49 victims) why is it important to love.
Life only comes once…♥
Love is happiness♥
Love is exciting♥
Love is ambitious♥
Love is possibility ♥
Love is precious ♥
Love is artistic ♥
Love is power ♥
Love is experience♥
Love is togetherness♥
Love is Diversity ♥
Love is priceless ♥
Love is strong ♥
Love is magic ♥
Love is unique ♥
Love is peace ♥
Love is freedom♥
Love is light ♥
Love is support♥
Love is beautiful♥
Love is true ♥
Love is deep ♥
Love is rare ♥
Love is patient♥
Love is kind ♥
Love is not given…♥
…Love is grown!♥
Love is forgiveness♥
Love is respect♥
Love is acceptance♥
Love is sharing ♥
Love is helping ♥
Love is connecting♥
Love is vulnerable ♥
Love comes in all sizes ♥
Love is forever ♥
Love trumps hate ♥
Love has no limits♥
Love does not judge♥
Love cannot be killed♥
Love is promise ♥
Love heals ♥
Love is compassionate♥
Love heals ♥
Love is Pride♥
Love is colorful♥
Love is brave♥
Love is equal♥
Love is Love. ♥
Sending my love to all were affected on this tragic day last year..
Independent (Adj.): Free from outside control; not depending on another’s authority.
What most people initially think of as independent is just a strong-willed person that has their own back in life and is very prideful. But, what you initially see in an independent person isn’t the whole story.
When I moved out of my parents house across the country I knew I had to be independent going to work, school, and live in the beginning stage of Adulthood.
Entering the life of an independent women you set an expectation that you have life all figured out and nothing can touch you.. But, life will unapologetically put you in check.
The reality is that there’s a lot of struggle, tears, stress, and hard work. But, I wouldn’t go back. When you live an independent life it’s about overcoming the struggles that make you stronger and you don’t have to do it alone.
One of the biggest myths of independent women is that we are too “Prideful.”
The Art of independence is that:
We’re not afraid to ask for help.
We’re not afraid of failure, we challenge it.
We’re not embarrassed of our past or our failures
We have good hearts
We can be soft.. but strong
Being independent isn’t about living a lavish life but taking control on how you handle life everyday without anyones approval.
Love you, Later.
♥Stay focused. Intelligent. And Motivated♥
Judgement is all around us and there’s nothing you can do to stop that. But, you can stop explaining your actions or decisions to others that may have a different mindset on what may be “right” for you.
Start living in a way that the judgement around you is irrelevant and live to be an encourager. Live to be an encourager because the world has enough critics to get by. When you encourage others it shines a light in them and what you see in others, exist in you. Be the light in the room and let it shine through others.
When you live a brighter life, you start to understand your worth in this world. You may not have all the answers but you start to make decisions in your life that pass your good judgement.
It’s no ones job to judge another nor to figure out if someone deserves something or not. People want the perfection that doesn’t exist.
Why should you stop explaining yourself to others?
Ask yourself these questions:
1. Are you happy with your decision?
2. Is your decision beneficial?
3. Is there more good qualities than bad?
4. Can you embrace the imperfect?
5. Can you be unapologetic of your decision?
If you answered “Yes” to at least half of these questions then do what makes you happy and don’t think twice about it because this is your life and live it to the fullest. Make the days count and worry about your life and not what others think about it.
Love you, Later.
I don’t know the perfect person. I only know flawed person that is still worth loving.
Add more kindness to the world, not judgement.
The best thing I’ve done in my life this year is be completely open to whatever comes into my life. From life opportunities to the people that come in and out of your life.. You’ll never know where they will take you. But, you have to take a leap of faith and stay committed to the big picture instead of what you planned would happen in this or that part of your story.
For some, this is a hard lifestyle to live. You either like knowing where you’ll end up at a certain part of your life or you want to be able to explain your life to others like you know what your doing. But the reality of that is that, you really can’t. Because life is always about rerouting.
Rerouting isn’t just what Siri yells at you when you made a wrong turn. Rerouting is about adding that turn you made into your life and still make it to your end destination, your dreams! The drive itself is full of so much beauty, self awareness, and courage.
How can you start living this open-minded rerouting lifestyle?
Know you can handle a few scars
Life will want to teach you a few lessons. From a butt-load of stress to something going completely different than you “expected,” you have to know that you can take being put down. Achieving your dreams doesn’t mean you won’t fail anymore, it only means you know what it takes to stay where you want to be.
Don’t let expectations hinder your path
Setting short-term expectations for an opportunity is the recipe for failure. When you expect something to be more than what it is. You miss the beauty of what you have and you only see what you want.
Let others teach you
I believe that good people bring out the good in people. Everyone around you have seen another part of life that you haven’t experienced. Their experiences have helped them grow into the person they are today and so forth. When you live an open life, you are opening up a gateway for others to come into your life. I can honestly say that I have learned at least one thing about life from all of the people around me which helps me feel more open. It’s like looking at a painting. You don’t just see a painting, you see the details of each stroke that went into the painting.
Being vulnerable is not about winning or losing. It’s about the courage of being seen. The true you, flaws and all. You have no control over what others may think or the outcome of certain situations. But, being vulnerable to what you believe is scary, freeing, and inspiring all at once.
Living an open lifestyle isn’t so easy at first. So, to take that first step start seeking some adventures that you would be interested in. Still in your circle but still a little out there. Kind of like a bucket list but a bit deeper. I personally find travel blogs and youtube videos quite helpful to really open my eyes into what life could possibly offer me!
Here are some of my favs:
Love you, later.
You’re always one decision from the life you want… Take action!
Are you the person that wants adventure or the person that wants to stay in the same place for the rest of your life?
If you chose Adventure... you may continue reading.
In order to live an adventurous life… You have to take risks. Step out of your comfort zone and you may surprise yourself a lot more than you believed you could. Trust me!
As adventurist, we know we’re going to do something great in our lifetime. When that moment comes, the first thing you’ll feel is complete fear in going for a new opportunity. Something new is always a little scary. From experience, I’ve noticed the maximum fear I felt in a situation was right before I took the first step. It’s like going sky diving. There’s that pit in your stomach right before you jump. But understand that is the moment to jump or you’ll never do it.
To just let go and jump into a new adventure is scary. So, here’s how you should see this new beginning in your life.
You are brave.
Showing the world who you are and who you want to be isn’t an easy tasks. Once you take that first step, it’s one of the most empowering moments in your life and you’ll remember that feeling forever.
You’ll never regret it.
The five seconds of fear vs. a lifetime of experience is what makes it worth it. No matter how the adventure ends up you will never regret taking it. If theres one thing I have learned it’s that nothing can substitute experience. Even my worst experience, I don’t regret one bit.
You feel alive
No one is ever ready. Sometimes there may be a better time in life but no one can fully be ready for what the future has to offer. Everyday your standing on your toes a little bit more to see what happens today.
Great things come when you push your comfort zones and when you choose the life of adventure you start to find things about yourself that you never knew you were looking for.
Be a doer.
Love you, later♥
Go on adventures to find out your true ability and who you are. Each experience has a lesson behind it. So, keep wondering with an open heart and mind.
Today was a great day! Recently I have been struggling to understand the “Why?” and “How?” of my brand and I felt like I didn’t have all the answers I thought I should have. So I took action and had a meeting with a Personal Branding coach and have also been emailing back and forth with another brand that has been very successful. Once I was done talking with them and getting some advice, I understood that I was stressing out over nothing!
So, here are some of the tips & tricks I learned today from professionals!
What social media platform are you most active on?
Well, I post on Instagram just about everyday and connect with so many more bloggers and entrepreneurs all the time! I find that to be my strong suite in really building relationships and keeping everyone updating on whats new in my life and my blog!
Social media is the best way to meet people, so finding the right platform for you is based on how you like connecting with people. Through a tweet, a 24-hour story on Snapchat, Live videos, or YouTube videos. There are so many ways to connect with people nowadays, especially for us Millennials.
Who is your target audience?
This was so hard for me to really understand. Since I want to grow M&M Millennials to its fullest potential. I had to dig deep in what I possibly want to do in my future. So, a great Idea for mine was Millennial women that are solopreneurs in their first year of starting their business.
I narrowed down the big target audience of Millennials to the millennials I feel will benefit from my writing and also my future services
Lastly, how will you spread your brands name?
Again, social media is one of the biggest tools now that you can use for your business. Bring together your strongest social media platform and your target audience by constantly sharing and linking your website/services to one another.
I absolutely love talking to people with more experience. You get to hear about how that person that you may look up to succeeded! The more experienced people you talk to, you will understand that no ones story is the same. So, taking the tips that they give you and applying it to your own brand will help you understand what works and doesn’t work for your brand.
Love you, later.
Don’t be afraid to ask a professional for a little bit of guidance! When you feel like you don’t have the answers… they most likely do and will bring more knowledge to a subject you probably haven’t even figured out yet. Send an email to either meet face-to-face or connect through email. State the goals you’re working towards, who your target audience is, and what you need help with. Especially if they’re in your field of work, people love giving advice about their success!
We all create something. Whether it’s in our head or we’re working to physically create it. Ideas pop into our heads all the time but life happens and we don’t quite remember everything we think about. That’s just how the brain works. Therefore, when an idea comes into my head for my brand, I carry around a physical notebook to jot down the ideas that I have. Typing it on your phone is okay as well. But, when you physically write something down it triggers something in your brain more than putting it in your phone where their is an overwhelming amount of apps that your brain wants to go on more than looking at your notes.
When do these great ideas arise?
Well when you are bored… That’s right when you’re bored!
When you unmask the meaning of boredom, piece by piece, you discover it is the desire for desire. I came across this because when I write in my notebook, it’s always in the moments of laying in bed, after I get out the shower, road trips, dazing off, etc.
When we get bored, our minds don’t shut off. It’s still creating more and more. These are the times that you are getting some one on one time in your own head. This time is sacred.
This time is sacred because the life of the creative is led, directed, and controlled by boredom.
Take this time seriously because your mind is going to push you in the direction you need go towards and can create some pretty amazing things little by little. Everything will add up and your success will be proof.
Buy a notebook, always have a pen/pencil on you, and collect these moments. Because when they come to you, it feels like it just hits you in the face then it’s gone if you don’t take action!
Love you, Later♥
One thing I have learned about figuring out your personal brand is that it takes a lot of digging deep into who you really are and what made you the person you are today. As hard as that is for a lot of people, I have the recipe for finding your personal brand that I have learned from other specialist that have helped me in the past. I have found these tips the most helpful in my journey and will help you dig deep for the beginning of your journey.
Who are you?
As we go on to answer these questions they seem very vague and common sense. But, I encourage you to keep reading to uncover the mask under these questions and how they will help you.
When I ask “Who are you?” dig deep and explain three to five words that describe the person you are and why. For example, I am courageous, passionate, a dreamer, and a doer. All of these ways to describe myself have so much reasonings behind them, I am courageous for taking on new beginnings fiercely, I am passionate about my future, family, and friends, I am a dreamer because I like having creative and innovative ideas for my future, and I am a doer because I like turning my dreams into plans!
I came up these descriptions by starting out a list with 20 words, then I cut it down to 10, then cut it down to the last 5 i couldn’t let go. I had to think about what words I was willing to let go of and explanations for the top 3-5 descriptions.
Where are you from?
When I ask where you’re from it’s not really about a destination but what made you the person you are today. My example, is that I am a black and white woman that was raised by a single teenage mom. This has made me independent, appreciative, and gave me so much drive to live the life I deserve.
So ask yourself these questions: “What events, people, etc, made you who you are today?” This is important for your brand because it shows your strengths and what’s really important to you for your brand.
Why are you here?
Why do you want to be successful? For your family? Money? Clients? What do you want to bring to the world and how do you define your success.
My example: I want to live the life that I have always imagined while making a difference and helping others rise. I define success is seeing the world and making connections all over the globe!
What are you capable of?
What makes you capable to not only define and start your brand but make it successful?
My example: Over time, I understand how to learn from my mistakes and not let them stop me. I look at the bigger picture and map out different routes to my success. Lastly, I don’t give up when the world says “no.”
Where are you going?
There’s no way to tell the future. Therefore, when I ask “Where are you going?” I am asking what is your unshakable vision to your brands clients. This is where your brands vision statement comes into play.
My vision statement: I pledge to the ones who haven’t quite figured it all out yet. That together we will grow in every way possible. We will explore, love a lot, never touch the ground, and be doers of the world.
I hope that this was helpful to you all in the beginning of finding your personal brand.
Love you, later ♥
Millennial Note: If the plan doesn’t work. Change the plan. Never the goal.
In the process of letting your limitations go. You should start to understand that your limitations is not what you don’t have but what you don’t use. With the wise words of Meredith Grey “Decide. Do it and decide. Is this the life you want live? Is this the person you want to love? Do you want to work a little harder? Is this the best that you can be? Can you be stronger? Kinder? More compassionate. Breathe in. Breathe out. Then decide.”
So, I’ve cooked up 13 reasons why letting go of limitations will make you powerful.
1. You will love more
2. You will never settle
3. You ignore others opinions
4. You respect yourself
5. You lose fear of being wrong
6. You learn your strengths
7. You start taking chances
8. You create miracles
9. You collect moments
10. You trust in the timing
11. You become the best you
12. You will inspire
13. You find yourself
I wrote this list because I have found the people I love around me putting limits on the life they don’t see they deserve. In love, career, and life overall. Therefore, I have figured that there’s so many more out there that need the same guidance. Now that you know at least 13 reasons why you should let go of your limitations, start deciding. Your limit shows the least of your potential, Surpass those expectations and try to surprise yourself a little more everyday and persevere.